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|Salam. As a non-Muslim I have a question regarding the possibility of the Istikharah Prayer in Islam; the prayer for guidance. So far as I understand, a Muslim can pray Isthikarah in situations where he has to make a hard decision in life. My question is: When you ask Allah for guidance, how do you recognize Allah’s will in that case? Somewhere I read that the solution to your problem can come in the form of a dream. But humans are dreaming often. How can you be sure that it was the answer to make your decision? I hope you understand me. I am curious on your answer and thank you for your time and advice.|
I will start my answer by giving you a brief definition of what Istikharah is about and then move on to a vital point that is both more profound and more holistic in outlook.
The spirit of the supplication is one in which the guidance and the blessings of God are sought. According to the hadith in which this supplication is mentioned, the Prophet Muhammad said that the best way to ask for guidance was to pray two rak`ahs, and then say the supplication, which can be roughly translated as follows:
O Allah, I consult You through Your knowledge, and I seek strength through Your power, and ask of Your great bounty; for You are Capable whereas I am not, and You know and I do not, and You are the Knower of hidden things. O Allah, if You know that this matter/choice is good for me in respect of my religion, my livelihood and the consequences of my affairs, (or he said “the sooner or the later of my affairs”) then ordain it for me, make it easy for me, and bless it for me. But if You know this matter (and name it) to be bad for my religion, my livelihood or the consequences of my affairs, (or he said “the sooner or the later of my affairs”) then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it, and grant me power to do good whatever it may be, and cause me to be contented with it.
The wording of the supplication is such that what is sought is guidance to what is best, not only in a worldly sense, but what is best “in respect of religion,” which means that which will enhance and improve one’s relationship with God.
In essence, when a Muslim says the supplication for guidance, he or she is putting his or her absolute and unquestioning trust in Allah, believing that because He is the One Who created, He knows what is best for His creation. This trust is built on the belief in the wisdom of Allah and His omnipotence.
This does not necessarily mean that the supplicant will dream of Allah’s will, as some believe. Although some people say that they have experienced dreams that helped them make up their mind after praying Istikharah, this is not what a Muslim should be looking out for.
Therefore, Muslims should always be striving to purify the state of their inner senses in order to be more capable of interpreting and receiving Allah’s guidance. The general rule is that the closer you are to Allah, the easier it is to read His signs and understand His guidance.
You rightly mention in your question that Istikharah is used when a Muslim is faced with a difficult decision. However, to be absolutely accurate, because Istikharah is a general supplication for goodness and guidance, the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) advised that Muslims should seek it in the smallest possible matters. This is because a Muslim should always seek what is best for him or her in both this world and the next throughout his or her whole life. For a Muslim, every event and deed is connected and counts.