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|What are the duties of a husband and wife?|
AnswerSalam Dear Syed,
Thank you for your question and for contacting Ask About Islam.
The important significance of marriage in Islam comes to one’s mind when the person finds out that Allah Almighty refers to it as ‘ meethaqun ghaleetha’ (firm covenant). The Quran says what means:
Actually the same words are used for the agreement between Allah and His prophets as the Quran says what means:
Allah Almighty created a special nature for both men and women by which it is natural that they are attracted to one another. This natural attraction brings them together to lead a common life and form a family.
The natural instinct of sex should be guided to the right direction so that it may be utilized in the service of humanity. Though the common life of a husband and wife originates from this natural instinct, it gradually develops into a seep, spiritual, sentimental, social and economical relationship.
Marriage is the kind of relationship for which we should not actually use the word of “duty” when referring to the bond between a husband and wife. This is because it’s something that is more sacred and elevated.
“A woman who prays five times a day, fasts during the month of Ramadan, protects her modesty and is obedient to her husband may enter heaven through any door she likes.”
So, not only can she enter heaven, but she can choose from the different doors.
In another hadith, it is mentioned:
“The best woman is the one who greets her husband with joy when he looks at her and when he asks something lawful.”
Also another hadith reports:
“On the Day of Judgment, God will not look upon the woman who has been ungrateful to her husband.”
The relationship between husband and wife is described beautifully in the Quran when it says what means:
Only God knows the reason why the word apparel is used, but one can guess that the apparel is so close to the body. It hides all that need to be hidden from the human body.
It does also beautify the appearance of the body. As a result, both husband and wife beautify the lives of each other and at the same time they have their own secrets that are not shown to everybody but themselves.
The husband in Islamic law is obliged to maintain his wife. Maintenance includes the wife's right to lodging, clothing, nourishing, care and well being. The wife has a right to enjoy all these things according to his status and capacity.
As for Prophet Lut, peace and blessings be upon him, he is an example of a man who was patient with the disobedience of his own wife, who was supposed to support him through his long and tough path.