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|Parents Forcing Children to Marry|
|As-Salamu `alaykum. It is stated that it is fard `ayn (an individual obligation) to listen to parents as it is obligatory on us to offer the Prayer, but it is only a sunnah to get married. Thus many parents force children to get married by using this principle. Please clarify this because I am in a similar predicament.|
Wa `alaykum As-Salamu wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.
In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.
Dear brother in Islam, we are very pleased for the great confidence you have in us, and we commend your apparent interest in having a better understanding of the teachings of Islam and the rulings of this great religion in all matters. In fact, Islam is a religion that encompasses all aspects of life and secures guidance and light for all mankind.
It is fard `ayn for you to obey your parents in matters which properly belong or fall under their authority. But your marriage does not fall under this category, for, according to the teachings of Islam, marriage is ultimately left to your own personal choice. Parents can at best only offer you advice or suggestions based on their own personal experience or preferences. You are either free to accept them or reject them. Rejecting their advice in this matter does not amount to disobeying them. But still you should consider whether there is anything of value or significance in their suggestion or advice, for most of the time parents have only the best interests of their children in their minds.