Dear readers, in an attempt to get you involved in a discussion about the challenges that Muslim families may suffer, for the sake of finding out a solution, we share this counseling question asked by a perplexed wife.
She has been facing serious marital problems with her husband, the issue that makes her unable to lead an ordinary life as a wife and a mother. She is concerned about her child who is growing up in such bad circumstances.
The question was sent to our Ask About Parenting service which stresses on the issues related to parents-children relationship.
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My husband and I are having marital problems. He is having an affair and he often discusses divorcing me. We argue a lot, and he sometimes becomes violent.
We have a 16-month-old baby and it scares me how this will affect her. I am very stressed and depressed; and I feel I neglect her and even sometimes shout at her when she is crying. My husband also does the same.
I try not to let it get to me. I have spoken to my mother, who advises me to be patient and not to say anything to him or argue with him; and to let him do what he wants; and that one day he will leave this woman.
My mother tells me just to concentrate on my baby's upbringing, but I am tired of waiting for that 'one day', and I am finding it very painful to accept another woman in his life.
I feel I am continuously ignoring my baby and that I do not give her my full attention as she deserves, due to my mental state.
Should we just separate for our baby's sake, as it is clear that my husband doesn't want to leave the other woman, and that I am never going to accept it?
Is it better to leave and at least give her a peaceful and loving environment to grow up in?
Please advise me.
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